Tems says her music career changed her life in ways that went far beyond fame and awards, pushing her to shed the hard edge of hyper-independency she once used to keep people at a distance. In a recent interview with Doose Of Society, the Grammy-winning singer said making music taught her to be more open, more receptive to love and less afraid of vulnerability.
“Being an artist has changed my life. There are a lot of people who know me. It made me grow, I had to shed a lot of habits that were holding me back—one of those things was my hyper-independency and the thing I do where I push people away,” Tems said. “I have now learned to embrace love, just be open, and be free to give love and be vulnerable without feeling odd.”
The comments land at a moment when Tems is no longer a new voice trying to break through. She launched her music career in 2018 with Mr Rebel, then reached a wider audience in 2020 through Wizkid’s hit Essence. Since then, she has worked with Drake, Beyoncé and Justin Bieber, won two Grammys and became the first Nigerian artist to surpass 40 million monthly streams on Spotify.
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That arc helps explain why the interview cuts deeper than a typical reflection on success. Tems is describing a personal change that runs against the image many artists cultivate, especially after a rapid rise: she is saying the work itself forced her to loosen her grip, trust people more and stop treating distance as protection. For an artist whose name now travels easily across borders and platforms, the shift she describes is part of the story of the career itself.
What Tems is saying, in plain terms, is that the same force that made her a global star also changed how she moves through her private life. The career is not just building her audience; it is reshaping the person behind the records.
